Stressful Business

You may or may not know that I am the co-creator and co-owner of Buddha Performance. For the last almost year my husband and myself have worked on our brand and getting it to where it is today.  While I am so proud of how far we have come, it’s has been and still is stressful.  So I wanted to talk about how I have dealt with the stress while growing a business!

If you don’t know anything about Buddha Performance let me fill you in.  We are a yoga and meditation lifestyle company with products that promote a positive and healthy life.  We want to keep the importance of being mindful and physical at the top of our priorities, so my stress release has stayed in line with our core values!  

I have found that my best stress release has been simply taking a couple deep breathes when feeling overwhelmed.  Focusing only on my inhale and exhale for 1 minute will make a huge difference.  So starting there is always my go to.  Doing a deep meditation isn’t always easy to do when you’re working on something so this is a great way to take a minute to refocus on what needs to be done.  And as a stay at home mom on top of building a business I have found that I am normally doing way more than I need to at once and this makes me stop everything when everything is too much.

Which brings me to my next point.  You can either do 100 things at once and barely get anything done, or you can focus on one or two things at a time and get them done sooner and more effectively.  I think this applies to any situation, not only when running a business.  We live in a world that we have to be doing so many things at once or we don’t feel satisfied.  Keeping it simple will keep the stress down some.  So take a step back and figure out what needs to be done first and do that and only that.  

Of course it wouldn’t be right for me to not include yoga.  When I am busy it is harder for me to do as much yoga.  Most of the time I don’t do a lot at once.  I will do little 5 to 10 minute flows through the day and if I have time I will do a longer flow after the kids are in bed.  But I think the most important thing you can do is not stay in the same spot for hours at a time.  Stretch in your chair if you can’t get up (Chair Yoga above), but if you can get up and move around get a little yoga in.  Try a couple forward folds, crescent moons, standing backbends, anything that you can to move and get a little stress relief.  

I can’t run a company that is focused on being healthy and taking care of yourself if I don’t do the same for myself.  Stress can easily take over and some days are harder than others, but I know that I am in control and I will do what it takes to continue doing what I need for myself to make sure I am able to take care and help others.

Now tell me what you do as a stress release?  I can’t wait to hear from you and I hope this gives you some ideas!

Namaste

Mental Health

David Satcher said, “There is no health without mental health.”  Too often when we think about getting healthy we only think about our body, but we have to remember what it really is that keeps us going and a lot of the time holds us back.  The mind is powerful and can take us to great places when we keep it thinking positive, keep learning, give it time to rest, and don’t beat it up when it’s not so positive.  

Growing up I fought with my mind a lot.  I had a mostly verbal abusive father that turned physical when I was 13 and pushed me to abusing drugs to clear my mind.  I tried to find anything I could to numb the thoughts.  I was very lucky that I got away from it all before it took me away for good.  Too many times that’s not the case and I’m very thankful that I had people that helped me overcome it.  Unfortunately I lost a very close friend to their mind about 5 and a half years ago and it makes me more aware of my own thoughts.  So I think it’s extremely important that everyone be aware of their mental health and know they have options and don’t have to be alone.

As a mom I think it’s very easy to put your health aside because you are too worried about your children’s well being.  After my first I remember being overwhelmed at times, but it wasn’t till my 2nd son was born that I really felt like I was going down a very bad path.  I was nursing him at one point for 7 hours a day.  7 HOURS.  That’s crazy for a 1 month old.  After talking to his doctor, we decided that I wasn’t able to give him enough so we supplemented and it got a little better.  It was still hard trying to keep my 2 and a half year old happy and healthy on top of the very needed new born, so I was very up and down with how I feft.  I started gaining weight and never really felt happy so I went to my OB and we decided I should probably stop nursing and go on a different birth control and see if that would help.  So at 5 months I stopped nursing and tried to start working on losing the weight and be happy with myself again and I had been doing good.

Then my still not so easy baby seemed to be getting worse with sleeping and for the most part is never happy throughout the day unless he is being held.  I started losing my temper with everyone and felt extremely stressed.  I would try to talk to the people closest to me about how I felt, but they would all just say “oh you don’t really feel like that” or “it’s not that bad” so I stopped even trying to talk to them.  I didn’t want to get up at night when he would start crying or scream at him when nothing would calm him down knowing it wasn’t his fault.  I had a night that he had been up 3 or 4 times in 3 hours and I was so tired and sick of trying to get him to sleep.  I was mentally breaking and I was on the verge of crying when I finally got him to sleep.  I went back to bed and wrote in my journal that I was ready to give up, I couldn’t take care of him anymore and that he would be better off with someone else.  I needed to write it down and get it out of my mind.  I needed to sleep and wake up in a better place and start fresh.

Since then I have dealt with everything much better.  I didn’t want to take my own life, but I was ready to pack my bags and find a nice quiet place to never leave.  I know I am going to have bad days when nothing goes right and my mind will try to go down that path, but I know I will get through it.  I also know that if I ever get to a place where I feel like it could go too far I can talk to my husband or call either my insurance help line or the national mental health hotline.  No one is alone if you feel you need help.  Being a mom is stressful and hard so don’t feel like you are doing it alone.  Even for people that are not parents go through things that are hard and take a toll on your mind.  Talk, write, get out of the area that makes you feel bad, meditate, listen to music, or whatever clears your mind.  Never be ashamed of how you feel.  You are going to be ok.  It may take some work and changing some things, but there is always someone who cares.  You may not know them and they are just a voice on the other end of a phone call or they may be your best friend that didn’t know you were having such a hard time.  You just have to open up and be honest.  I promise someone cares and wants you around.

I found this article that is simple, but is really good.   https://www.womenshealth.gov/mental-health/good-health/

Take a moment to look over it.  They have some great resources as well.

 

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

1-800-273-8255

Our physical health is important, but our mental health is everything.  Don’t let it slip away!

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1 month down

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I can not tell you that I have done everything I wanted to everyday in the last month.  I can’t tell you that it’s so easy now that I don’t even have to try because that’s total bull shit.  I haven’t lost a ton of weight or dropped 3 sizes in a month.  It hasn’t been an overnight transformation with my body, but let’s talk about what has changed and what is working.

I will tell you first that I rely on my fitbit for most of my motivation.  I jog at 11pm because I need to get my steps for the day or it tells me when I haven’t got 250 steps in the hour and I have 10 minutes to get my butt up and do something.  It tells me how many calories I can eat depending on how active I have been so far that day.  I just add my food and water in throughout the day and it’s super easy to do.   I love this little thing and the app.

 

I have went from struggling to jog for 15 minutes to being able to get in 25 with no problem most days.  Yes that’s only 10 minutes more, but I can feel a difference and try to push myself a little more each day.  Jogging has been the one thing that I have been most consistent with.  If I don’t jog, I have walked a good bit that day or done some dancing to really get moving.  So jogging has been my most successful goal and I’m proud of myself for sticking with it as much as I have.

 

Now I believe that you can’t just change one thing and get the results that you want.  So on top of being active I try and stay under 1200 calories a day, but stay around 1000 most day’s.  I know that doesn’t sound like a lot, but I eat a good bit of the right foods.  And that’s what it’s really about, eating the right foods throughout the day so you don’t feel like you are starving between meals.  I try to go light for breakfast and lunch so I can have a little extra for dinner.  My suggested amount is about 1500 calories a day, but I normally have no problem staying under so I do and then when I do go over I don’t feel as bad.

I am not happy to say I am only doing yoga about 3 days a week.  Sometimes it’s only for about 10 minutes a day, but I feel so much better the days that I do and more at peace with how I feel.  I am still a very tired mom with a 7 month old that hates me (that has to be it because he is never happy and sleeps almost as little as I do) and a super energetic almost 3 year old.  I don’t know how I get up most nights when someone starts crying, but I do and the next day I need to feel as good as I possibly can and I feel yoga will help.  My goal is to do it 6 days a week and I hope to be there soon.

 

Meditation, well that’s not going so well.  It’s been really hard for me to carve out time when I am alone to do it.  I can do everything else when the kids are up if I need to, but meditating is not something that can happen with them.  I have to be more dedicated to this because I truly feel it’s one of the most important things I can do for myself.  As a mother and wife I seem to put myself so far on the back burner that I forget I need to take care of me so I can take care of everyone else.   I know this is such a huge problem with so many moms and stressed out, overworked people that don’t think they should take time for them, but YOU NEED TO!  You need to let go of all the crap you deal with and feel like a person again.  Go take a bath and put headphones in so you can’t hear the kids screaming in the living room.  Or go hang out on the front porch for a while.  Do what makes you feel good.  Just do something for you.  And I’m going to work on making time for me!

Now let’s get down to the numbers.  I have lost a grand total of 2 pounds and dropped 1 pants size!  Yea yea that’s not much and believe me, I wish it was a lot more.  But my stomach is flatter and I am able to wear things that I would only wear with my waist trainer to smooth everything out at Christmas.  So yes it’s only 2 pounds, but I am happy with how much my body has started to change.  My body has wanted to hang on to what I had left of my last pregnancy and I have the kid (screaming all the time), so I don’t want to look like I did right after I had him.  But I also know that it is going to take time and how I feel can not be put into numbers.  I have to keep going and I know I will get to where I want to be.  

 

So to recap for you, I am good at getting my steps, ok at yoga, I suck at meditation, I eat pretty good, and I am super tired all the time.  But I also feel better than I have in a long time and am slowly starting to like my body again.  

It’s going to take time, dedication and hard work, but I know it’s going to happen.  So here is to one month down and a lifetime to go.

 

Namaste   

 

 

Finding Balance

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Right now I am struggling with fitting everything into my day that I want to do with my mental and physical health.  I find myself jogging at 11pm for 30 minutes to make sure I get my steps in after everyone is in bed.  Every night I think “I will get up early tomorrow and workout before everyone gets up”, but then I am up 3 times with the baby through the night and I feel like death every morning so that goes out the door.  I mean I have to sleep some too.  

So when do I get it all done?  Well today I jogged and did a quick workout after we all got up.  My husband was working in the office, I was in the living room, my toddler was running between us, and the baby was in the walker looking at me like I was crazy.  But I got my 20 minute jog in and I thought it was a great start to the day.  I should have no problem getting my steps in and I would just do a little yoga before bed.

Well here it is 9pm and I still have 2k steps to get, have 32 oz of water to drink (this is a struggle for me EVERYDAY!), yoga to do, and would like to meditate.  And that’s just what I would like to do for myself.  We still have to get both kids to bed, start a load of clothes, pick up around the house, and sweep the whole first floor.  It’s never ending and I always feel like I have only done about half of what I needed to.

Somehow I will figure out what I need to do so I have time for my stuff each day without feeling like I have neglected everything else to do so.  I try and include my kids as much as I can, but sometimes that just makes it 500 times more stressful because I am fighting with them to do it and just waste an hour and didn’t really get any workout in.  That’s not always the case, but getting a 3 year old and a 6 month old to do what you want and when you want them to do it is usually a fail.

So tell me what you do to make sure you get your workouts in and do everything else you need to do in a day?  How do you find balance?  Give me your feedback and let’s help each other!

 

Lets talk about Meditation

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Back in November 2016 I was invited to do a 30 day meditation challenge that my husband was doing and I thought since we would both be doing it that we would be each other’s support system.  Well I made it 2 days and that was all she wrote.  He did great until we were out of town for the holidays and that can throw off anyone’s schedule.  Since the new year I have been trying to get a little in each day if only to have 5 minutes of peace.  My house is far from a quiet place to relax between a crying 6 month old that never seems to be ok with where he is unless he is in your arms walking around and an almost 3 year old that thinks he can do whatever he wants.  So how do I fit in meditation?  Well I wait til everyone is asleep most of the time or if a miracle happens and they both take naps at the same time.  I use a meditation app called “Insight Timer” and it’s free.  It has guided meditations or you can just use a timer.  I am not to the point where I can do it without a guide.  My mind goes 1000 different ways and it’s useless.  It has some guided sets that are only 1 minute long and up to an hour.  You pick what works for you at the time.  It gives me a much needed break and it relieves stress.  

Take time for you today and figure out what works for you.

Namaste

3 days in!

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When making a lifestyle change that you have planned for and thought about a lot, you go into it with enthusiasm and fire that drives you to really get to your goal.  The first day you go all in.  Making sure you hit everything you wanted to and feel great about it.  That was me January 1st.  I jogged for 25 minutes (in place in my living room and in little circles around my kitchen), I did 20 minutes of yoga, 20 minutes of dance workout videos, 5 minutes of guided meditation, and got my 9 thousand Fitbit steps.  I ate well and got my 64 oz of water drank with no problems and felt really good.  Now keep in mind that this is also on top of the everyday momma of 2 stuff and the nonstop cleaning that comes along with that.  I ended the day with writing down all I had done and how proud I was in myself for doing it.  It was a good day!

Now day 2 didn’t go as well.  It started with the baby waking up early and while he did go back to sleep, I stayed up and started my day with a 10 minute meditation, and a 15 minute jog while listening to my favorite Pandora station!  I was on a success high with how well my morning was going when my youngest woke up so we went upstairs to take a shower, gave him a bath before waking up my oldest to give him a bath.  We were doing great.  Had breakfast and cleaned the kitchen when I decided to take all the Christmas stuff down and that was pretty much where my success slowed down a whole lot.  But we got everything put away, I got my steps in and wrote before bed so it wasn’t a total loss.

Today I went into it wanting to at least do everything.  Well here it is 9 pm and I have jogged.  I am going to make sure I meditate, do some yoga, and get my last 2 thousand steps before bed.  But the point I want to make is that just because I didn’t do everything yesterday doesn’t mean I am giving up.  I still have to take care of my family and unexpected things are going to happen, but I’m not giving up.  I have to adjust my life to make it work every day and that takes time.  When I woke up this morning I weighed myself and I have lost a pound since starting, so I know it’s going to be worth it.  Hard work will always be worth it, so make the adjustments in your life that you need to and and I promise you will be happy with how you feel.

Find peace within yourself today and Namaste.