Stressful Business

You may or may not know that I am the co-creator and co-owner of Buddha Performance. For the last almost year my husband and myself have worked on our brand and getting it to where it is today.  While I am so proud of how far we have come, it’s has been and still is stressful.  So I wanted to talk about how I have dealt with the stress while growing a business!

If you don’t know anything about Buddha Performance let me fill you in.  We are a yoga and meditation lifestyle company with products that promote a positive and healthy life.  We want to keep the importance of being mindful and physical at the top of our priorities, so my stress release has stayed in line with our core values!  

I have found that my best stress release has been simply taking a couple deep breathes when feeling overwhelmed.  Focusing only on my inhale and exhale for 1 minute will make a huge difference.  So starting there is always my go to.  Doing a deep meditation isn’t always easy to do when you’re working on something so this is a great way to take a minute to refocus on what needs to be done.  And as a stay at home mom on top of building a business I have found that I am normally doing way more than I need to at once and this makes me stop everything when everything is too much.

Which brings me to my next point.  You can either do 100 things at once and barely get anything done, or you can focus on one or two things at a time and get them done sooner and more effectively.  I think this applies to any situation, not only when running a business.  We live in a world that we have to be doing so many things at once or we don’t feel satisfied.  Keeping it simple will keep the stress down some.  So take a step back and figure out what needs to be done first and do that and only that.  

Of course it wouldn’t be right for me to not include yoga.  When I am busy it is harder for me to do as much yoga.  Most of the time I don’t do a lot at once.  I will do little 5 to 10 minute flows through the day and if I have time I will do a longer flow after the kids are in bed.  But I think the most important thing you can do is not stay in the same spot for hours at a time.  Stretch in your chair if you can’t get up (Chair Yoga above), but if you can get up and move around get a little yoga in.  Try a couple forward folds, crescent moons, standing backbends, anything that you can to move and get a little stress relief.  

I can’t run a company that is focused on being healthy and taking care of yourself if I don’t do the same for myself.  Stress can easily take over and some days are harder than others, but I know that I am in control and I will do what it takes to continue doing what I need for myself to make sure I am able to take care and help others.

Now tell me what you do as a stress release?  I can’t wait to hear from you and I hope this gives you some ideas!


Mental Health

David Satcher said, “There is no health without mental health.”  Too often when we think about getting healthy we only think about our body, but we have to remember what it really is that keeps us going and a lot of the time holds us back.  The mind is powerful and can take us to great places when we keep it thinking positive, keep learning, give it time to rest, and don’t beat it up when it’s not so positive.  

Growing up I fought with my mind a lot.  I had a mostly verbal abusive father that turned physical when I was 13 and pushed me to abusing drugs to clear my mind.  I tried to find anything I could to numb the thoughts.  I was very lucky that I got away from it all before it took me away for good.  Too many times that’s not the case and I’m very thankful that I had people that helped me overcome it.  Unfortunately I lost a very close friend to their mind about 5 and a half years ago and it makes me more aware of my own thoughts.  So I think it’s extremely important that everyone be aware of their mental health and know they have options and don’t have to be alone.

As a mom I think it’s very easy to put your health aside because you are too worried about your children’s well being.  After my first I remember being overwhelmed at times, but it wasn’t till my 2nd son was born that I really felt like I was going down a very bad path.  I was nursing him at one point for 7 hours a day.  7 HOURS.  That’s crazy for a 1 month old.  After talking to his doctor, we decided that I wasn’t able to give him enough so we supplemented and it got a little better.  It was still hard trying to keep my 2 and a half year old happy and healthy on top of the very needed new born, so I was very up and down with how I feft.  I started gaining weight and never really felt happy so I went to my OB and we decided I should probably stop nursing and go on a different birth control and see if that would help.  So at 5 months I stopped nursing and tried to start working on losing the weight and be happy with myself again and I had been doing good.

Then my still not so easy baby seemed to be getting worse with sleeping and for the most part is never happy throughout the day unless he is being held.  I started losing my temper with everyone and felt extremely stressed.  I would try to talk to the people closest to me about how I felt, but they would all just say “oh you don’t really feel like that” or “it’s not that bad” so I stopped even trying to talk to them.  I didn’t want to get up at night when he would start crying or scream at him when nothing would calm him down knowing it wasn’t his fault.  I had a night that he had been up 3 or 4 times in 3 hours and I was so tired and sick of trying to get him to sleep.  I was mentally breaking and I was on the verge of crying when I finally got him to sleep.  I went back to bed and wrote in my journal that I was ready to give up, I couldn’t take care of him anymore and that he would be better off with someone else.  I needed to write it down and get it out of my mind.  I needed to sleep and wake up in a better place and start fresh.

Since then I have dealt with everything much better.  I didn’t want to take my own life, but I was ready to pack my bags and find a nice quiet place to never leave.  I know I am going to have bad days when nothing goes right and my mind will try to go down that path, but I know I will get through it.  I also know that if I ever get to a place where I feel like it could go too far I can talk to my husband or call either my insurance help line or the national mental health hotline.  No one is alone if you feel you need help.  Being a mom is stressful and hard so don’t feel like you are doing it alone.  Even for people that are not parents go through things that are hard and take a toll on your mind.  Talk, write, get out of the area that makes you feel bad, meditate, listen to music, or whatever clears your mind.  Never be ashamed of how you feel.  You are going to be ok.  It may take some work and changing some things, but there is always someone who cares.  You may not know them and they are just a voice on the other end of a phone call or they may be your best friend that didn’t know you were having such a hard time.  You just have to open up and be honest.  I promise someone cares and wants you around.

I found this article that is simple, but is really good.

Take a moment to look over it.  They have some great resources as well.


National Suicide Prevention Lifeline


Our physical health is important, but our mental health is everything.  Don’t let it slip away!



Finding Balance


Right now I am struggling with fitting everything into my day that I want to do with my mental and physical health.  I find myself jogging at 11pm for 30 minutes to make sure I get my steps in after everyone is in bed.  Every night I think “I will get up early tomorrow and workout before everyone gets up”, but then I am up 3 times with the baby through the night and I feel like death every morning so that goes out the door.  I mean I have to sleep some too.  

So when do I get it all done?  Well today I jogged and did a quick workout after we all got up.  My husband was working in the office, I was in the living room, my toddler was running between us, and the baby was in the walker looking at me like I was crazy.  But I got my 20 minute jog in and I thought it was a great start to the day.  I should have no problem getting my steps in and I would just do a little yoga before bed.

Well here it is 9pm and I still have 2k steps to get, have 32 oz of water to drink (this is a struggle for me EVERYDAY!), yoga to do, and would like to meditate.  And that’s just what I would like to do for myself.  We still have to get both kids to bed, start a load of clothes, pick up around the house, and sweep the whole first floor.  It’s never ending and I always feel like I have only done about half of what I needed to.

Somehow I will figure out what I need to do so I have time for my stuff each day without feeling like I have neglected everything else to do so.  I try and include my kids as much as I can, but sometimes that just makes it 500 times more stressful because I am fighting with them to do it and just waste an hour and didn’t really get any workout in.  That’s not always the case, but getting a 3 year old and a 6 month old to do what you want and when you want them to do it is usually a fail.

So tell me what you do to make sure you get your workouts in and do everything else you need to do in a day?  How do you find balance?  Give me your feedback and let’s help each other!


Lets talk about Meditation


Back in November 2016 I was invited to do a 30 day meditation challenge that my husband was doing and I thought since we would both be doing it that we would be each other’s support system.  Well I made it 2 days and that was all she wrote.  He did great until we were out of town for the holidays and that can throw off anyone’s schedule.  Since the new year I have been trying to get a little in each day if only to have 5 minutes of peace.  My house is far from a quiet place to relax between a crying 6 month old that never seems to be ok with where he is unless he is in your arms walking around and an almost 3 year old that thinks he can do whatever he wants.  So how do I fit in meditation?  Well I wait til everyone is asleep most of the time or if a miracle happens and they both take naps at the same time.  I use a meditation app called “Insight Timer” and it’s free.  It has guided meditations or you can just use a timer.  I am not to the point where I can do it without a guide.  My mind goes 1000 different ways and it’s useless.  It has some guided sets that are only 1 minute long and up to an hour.  You pick what works for you at the time.  It gives me a much needed break and it relieves stress.  

Take time for you today and figure out what works for you.