Finding Balance


Right now I am struggling with fitting everything into my day that I want to do with my mental and physical health.  I find myself jogging at 11pm for 30 minutes to make sure I get my steps in after everyone is in bed.  Every night I think “I will get up early tomorrow and workout before everyone gets up”, but then I am up 3 times with the baby through the night and I feel like death every morning so that goes out the door.  I mean I have to sleep some too.  

So when do I get it all done?  Well today I jogged and did a quick workout after we all got up.  My husband was working in the office, I was in the living room, my toddler was running between us, and the baby was in the walker looking at me like I was crazy.  But I got my 20 minute jog in and I thought it was a great start to the day.  I should have no problem getting my steps in and I would just do a little yoga before bed.

Well here it is 9pm and I still have 2k steps to get, have 32 oz of water to drink (this is a struggle for me EVERYDAY!), yoga to do, and would like to meditate.  And that’s just what I would like to do for myself.  We still have to get both kids to bed, start a load of clothes, pick up around the house, and sweep the whole first floor.  It’s never ending and I always feel like I have only done about half of what I needed to.

Somehow I will figure out what I need to do so I have time for my stuff each day without feeling like I have neglected everything else to do so.  I try and include my kids as much as I can, but sometimes that just makes it 500 times more stressful because I am fighting with them to do it and just waste an hour and didn’t really get any workout in.  That’s not always the case, but getting a 3 year old and a 6 month old to do what you want and when you want them to do it is usually a fail.

So tell me what you do to make sure you get your workouts in and do everything else you need to do in a day?  How do you find balance?  Give me your feedback and let’s help each other!




Motivation is hard for me.  When you have a toddler that is like an Energizer Bunny and a 6 month old that cries or whines 75% of his time awake, you can feel the life in you drain out.  Don’t get me wrong I love them to death, but they will be the death of me.  My husband and I have talked about maybe having another and I just don’t know if I would make it to the oldest’s graduation if we had a 3rd.  I have no idea how people have 5 or 6 kids.  I would lose my mind in no time.  I would probably want to be taken to the loony bin to have some peace and quiet.  So thank the Lord for birth control and until I forget how stressful it is having a needy baby and a toddler at the same time it will be taken every night on the dot.  

But I’m getting off track.  Sorry, baby brain does not stop after you give birth.

Last week I had lost a pound!  I am not dropping my weight very fast, so a pound is a good thing for me to see.  That was last Thursday and on Monday I weighed again and I had gained the damn thing right back.  I have stayed at around 1000 calories a day, got my steps, jogged, all the stuff I have been trying to fit into my everyday routine and I gained a pound (WTF).  So today (Wednesday), I weighed again and look I gained another pound.  I wanted to throw my scale through the window.

Instead of giving up and saying screw it and going straight to Krispy Kreme Donuts right down the road with the “HOT” sign on and getting my free dozen when you buy a dozen I took the family to the aquarium, walked around the local tourist trap and went to the park to jog/walk before dinner.  I added a thousand steps to my goal each day and doubled my target active minutes a day.  Somehow I will get this weight off and keep it off by changing how I live.  Eat different and be active everyday instead of when I feel like it.



Right now, my main motivation is dropping 20 pounds and being happy with how I look.  It’s still hard for me to really enjoy working out everyday.  It’s hard trying to fit everything in between taking care of the kids and everything else that always needs to be done.  But I want to get to the point where it feels good to be active and feel better over all.

I find motivation in my family.  When my toddler rolls out the yoga mat and gets super excited to exercise with me it makes that workout a little easier even though I know he will only last about 2 minutes before he is off to do something else.  I want to be able to run around and play with them now and make it to be old and gray so I can drive them as crazy as they have made me through the years.  I want to show them how to live a healthy life and know that they are going to make it til they are old and gray.  It’s not just about me anymore, but I don’t want them to be without me so I need to take care of myself too.

And I find motivation in my friends.  I want to show them that they don’t just have to be ok with how much they weigh or feel when it’s affecting their physical and mental health in a negative way.  That just because you had a child and that baby weight didn’t just go away that it isn’t how you have to stay.  I want to be there for them when nothing seems to be working and figure out what will work for them or celebrate when they meet a goal.  But I need them to tell me when I’m doing good or when I’m messing up because I am far from perfect and we all need a friend that’s supportive when you are going through a big change.

So take some time to find what motivates you and feed off that.  When you need a little pick me up, go to what helps you.  Don’t be afraid or feel bad for where it comes from as long as it gets you up and going.  Do it for you when everything you do is for someone else.  Just do it.



Run for it


I am fortunate to live on the coast of SC where for the most part you can be outside year round without a problem.  We don’t get much winter weather and if we do it’s gone within a day or so.  Which is good because I am not made for the cold.  I am that person wearing a hoodie no matter what time of the year and the slightest breeze will give me chills.  

I love being outside and I can always bundle up and go out in the cold, but I don’t let my kids get cold.  If they go out in the winter, you would think we live in the north.  2 shirts and a jacket, hats, gloves, scarves, and you better believe they will have a cover over them in the stroller.  I know it’s a little overkill, but I don’t want them to be cold!

So right now it’s very up and down.  A week ago it was in the 30’s and 40’s and yesterday it was in the 70’s.  SC is a little Bi-polar if you didn’t know.  But when it is nice, we make sure we get out each day and enjoy it with a walk somewhere.  I have been doing my best to be a jogger.  I have never been good at getting out and running and it’s really been a challenge for me.  And I have learned that it’s not something that you just start doing all the time.  You have to work your way into it.  

When we are at the park walking I try to do short bursts of jogging, but I do my best jogging in my living room and kitchen.  After the kids are down for the night I can turn on some music and go to town.  I don’t worry about anyone watching me and wondering if I’m going fast enough.  It’s me time at it’s best.  Even if it’s only for 15 to 20 minutes doing small laps around the kitchen and the coffee table or in place watching the first non kids show of the day.  

Everyday it gets a little easier and I can go a little longer.  And when it gets warmer I will be ready to take the kids out and run for it!  So stop giving yourself excuses to not jog or even just walk.  You can do it anywhere when you decide you are going to make it happen.