A couple days ago I went to get my hair cut for the first time in over a year and it got me thinking about what I do for me. Well it’s pretty easy, not much. I am bad about putting what I want aside because I can do without. I used to have fake nails that were done every 3 weeks, I colored my hair every month or so, I would get some type of clothes for myself at least once or twice a month, and I would spend almost 2 hours to do my hair and makeup. Now I couldn’t tell you the last time I had my nails painted, I colored my hair a little over a month ago, but before then who knows, and if my hair has been washed in the last 2 days and I took 5 minutes to get something on my face I am doing good. I worry about everyone else looking good and getting everything they need before myself. Now I am not bitching. I know if I wanted to go do any of those things my husband would be fine with it and tell me he has the kids. Just like he was the other day, but I find it hard for me to even say “Hey I want to go shopping alone for something other than groceries.”
I always feel like I don’t really need to go do it so I don’t, but I regret it when I look at how shitty I look at the end of the day. So why do I neglect myself each day? Why don’t I take the time to relax and feel better about myself? Are we wired as moms to think that we are less now that we have to take care of our kids? I don’t know if I will ever know those answers. But I feel like it shouldn’t be like that all the time. I’m not saying neglect your kids and start going out shopping everyday, but I think we should start taking time for ourselves before it’s too late.
I think a lot has to do with how much we spread ourselves thin. Everyday I plan to do 25 hours worth of stuff and I’m doing good to get half of it done. I try to plan and schedule, but my kids always have a different plan. Someone wants to be held, needs to be changed, wants a snack, knocked over something to make a new mess and then you have the animals that can be just as needy at times.
So how do I put all that stuff aside and do something for me? How do I tell myself it’s ok to leave the mess in the kitchen and go get my nails done? Or even say “I’m going to take a bath and go to bed early”? I am making it my goal to start doing this more. I am so tired all the time and I need to find some time to relax, so today I am going to make a list of things I can do for me. Things that will help me in the end be a better mom because I will be happy and feel better.
Tell me what you do? How do you know when enough is enough and say screw all the work and take a break? We need to find a balance to make sure we don’t go completely crazy.