David Satcher said, “There is no health without mental health.” Too often when we think about getting healthy we only think about our body, but we have to remember what it really is that keeps us going and a lot of the time holds us back. The mind is powerful and can take us to great places when we keep it thinking positive, keep learning, give it time to rest, and don’t beat it up when it’s not so positive.
Growing up I fought with my mind a lot. I had a mostly verbal abusive father that turned physical when I was 13 and pushed me to abusing drugs to clear my mind. I tried to find anything I could to numb the thoughts. I was very lucky that I got away from it all before it took me away for good. Too many times that’s not the case and I’m very thankful that I had people that helped me overcome it. Unfortunately I lost a very close friend to their mind about 5 and a half years ago and it makes me more aware of my own thoughts. So I think it’s extremely important that everyone be aware of their mental health and know they have options and don’t have to be alone.
As a mom I think it’s very easy to put your health aside because you are too worried about your children’s well being. After my first I remember being overwhelmed at times, but it wasn’t till my 2nd son was born that I really felt like I was going down a very bad path. I was nursing him at one point for 7 hours a day. 7 HOURS. That’s crazy for a 1 month old. After talking to his doctor, we decided that I wasn’t able to give him enough so we supplemented and it got a little better. It was still hard trying to keep my 2 and a half year old happy and healthy on top of the very needed new born, so I was very up and down with how I feft. I started gaining weight and never really felt happy so I went to my OB and we decided I should probably stop nursing and go on a different birth control and see if that would help. So at 5 months I stopped nursing and tried to start working on losing the weight and be happy with myself again and I had been doing good.
Then my still not so easy baby seemed to be getting worse with sleeping and for the most part is never happy throughout the day unless he is being held. I started losing my temper with everyone and felt extremely stressed. I would try to talk to the people closest to me about how I felt, but they would all just say “oh you don’t really feel like that” or “it’s not that bad” so I stopped even trying to talk to them. I didn’t want to get up at night when he would start crying or scream at him when nothing would calm him down knowing it wasn’t his fault. I had a night that he had been up 3 or 4 times in 3 hours and I was so tired and sick of trying to get him to sleep. I was mentally breaking and I was on the verge of crying when I finally got him to sleep. I went back to bed and wrote in my journal that I was ready to give up, I couldn’t take care of him anymore and that he would be better off with someone else. I needed to write it down and get it out of my mind. I needed to sleep and wake up in a better place and start fresh.
Since then I have dealt with everything much better. I didn’t want to take my own life, but I was ready to pack my bags and find a nice quiet place to never leave. I know I am going to have bad days when nothing goes right and my mind will try to go down that path, but I know I will get through it. I also know that if I ever get to a place where I feel like it could go too far I can talk to my husband or call either my insurance help line or the national mental health hotline. No one is alone if you feel you need help. Being a mom is stressful and hard so don’t feel like you are doing it alone. Even for people that are not parents go through things that are hard and take a toll on your mind. Talk, write, get out of the area that makes you feel bad, meditate, listen to music, or whatever clears your mind. Never be ashamed of how you feel. You are going to be ok. It may take some work and changing some things, but there is always someone who cares. You may not know them and they are just a voice on the other end of a phone call or they may be your best friend that didn’t know you were having such a hard time. You just have to open up and be honest. I promise someone cares and wants you around.
I found this article that is simple, but is really good. https://www.womenshealth.gov/mental-health/good-health/
Take a moment to look over it. They have some great resources as well.
Our physical health is important, but our mental health is everything. Don’t let it slip away!Share